My dad and I picked up my mom’s ashes from the funeral home yesterday. My dad chose a nice urn, a box patterned with flowers. He put it on a space beneath a painting of the Madonna my mom had painted many years ago (pictured above).
My mom and dad were married in 1953. Back then when they were dating, my mother lived with her grandmother, while my dad rented a tiny apartment elsewhere. They had dated for about a year when one evening my dad was lying down in his bedroom. He was startled to see my mom’s grandmother in the open bedroom doorway. She stopped at the door, looked at my dad with a sad look on her face, then left. Mom’s grandma was not in my dad’s apartment. My dad saw some sort of apparition. Three days after his experience, my mom’s grandmother died in her sleep of old age. My mom discovered her grandma dead and was in a panic attack. My mom and dad married shortly after her grandmother’s passing.
Did my father experience an apparition premonition in 1953? I’ve heard a number of such stories first-hand. Maybe it was an actual apparition, or a mental premonition of something that just happened or is soon to occur.
Over the decades my parents had their up and downs in their relationship like everybody else, but they stuck together through the good times and the bad times. When my mom was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer a few weeks ago, it was the worst of times. My father’s concern was that my mother would not suffer. I have now seen terminal cancer’s terrible consequences in my family, and it is an awful experience. I have personal sympathy with all who has gone through this ordeal.
Two nights after my mom passed away, my dad way lying in bed asleep, when something awoke him. He said it felt like someone was touching, holding his hand, which was laid out on the bed. He suddenly awoke and was startled by the physical sensation, as if someone had physically moved his fingers.
He thought maybe mom visited him one last time, to let him know she was ok. I think that is what happened. Mom wanted dad to know everything was fine, don’t worry about her anymore. We don’t have to worry about the dead they are at peace. Worry is only for the living and those who remain.